Find Me Here

This site is no longer active, and in fact I assumed it had long since disappeared from the web until I clicked through by accident from a comment on a friend’s WordPress blog.  So just in case anyone else does the same, you can now find me at where I’m blogging my novel The Crash.

Or follow me on Twitter or Instagram where I post as @Stephaniewriter.

Or find all my books on Amazon UK or Amazon US

I’m pretty sure when I wrote those first few posts below (before I abandoned WordPress for the relative simplicity of blogger) I didn’t imagine I’d ever have anything like this many books to list.  Who was it who said we always overestimate what we can achieve in a year and underestimate what we can achieve in ten?

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Loved this piece by Christine Kane – so true!

What’s Easy. What’s Not.
by Christine Kane

It’s easy to be right.
It’s not easy to be kind.

It’s easy to hope.
It’s not easy to know.

It’s easy to be a damsel.
It’s not easy to be a heroine.

It’s easy to complain.
It’s not easy to make requests.

It’s easy to have the perfect retort.
It’s not easy to listen.

It’s easy to be busy.
It’s not easy to be productive.

It’s easy to criticize.
It’s not easy to create.

It’s easy to say you don’t feel like it.
It’s not easy to do it anyway.

It’s easy to obsess.
It’s not easy to meditate.

It’s easy to sing your heart out when the audience loves you.
It’s not easy to sing your heart out when no one is paying attention.

It’s easy to wait for rescue.
It’s not easy to rescue yourself.

It’s easy to resent people who take up your time.
It’s not easy to say no in the first place.

It’s easy to make excuses.
It’s not easy to take responsibility.

It’s easy to worry.
It’s not easy to make a plan.

It’s easy to come up with reasons why someone pissed you off.
It’s not easy to ask yourself how you participated.

It’s easy to dabble.
It’s not easy to commit.

It’s easy to rail on the idiot driver behind you.
It’s not easy to just move out of his way.

It’s easy to read books about writing.
It’s not easy to sit down and write.

It’s easy to say no to bad things because you want good things.
It’s not easy to say no to good things because you want great things.

It’s easy to fire off an angry email or blog comment.
It’s not easy to pause and breathe and clarify your feelings.

It’s easy to react to an angry email or blog comment by firing one back.
It’s not easy to pause and breathe and clarify your meaning.

It’s easy to start your idea.
It’s not easy to finish it.

It’s easy to buy something cheap because it’s cheap.
It’s not easy to buy something expensive because you love it.

It’s easy to say you don’t know what you want.
It’s not easy to admit what you do want.

It’s easy to let a kid watch TV.
It’s not easy to find ways to play with a kid.

It’s easy to do urgent things.
It’s not easy to do important things.

It’s easy to say it’s too hard.
It’s worth it to do what’s not easy.



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Christine Kane is the Mentor to Women Who are Changing the World. She helps women uplevel their lives, their businesses and their success. Her weekly LiveCreative eZine goes out to over 12,000 subscribers. If you are ready to take your life and your world to the next level, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at

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The bookshelf trick

Bookshelf with my book

My book sits alongside business bestsellers like Seth Godin

Here’s how I helped myself see my book as a real, tangible thing, and the project completed.  As an added bonus, I’m mentally shelving my book alongside works of some of the biggest and best-selling business writers.  Feels good!

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What do you believe about writing?

One of the first ever stories I read about law of attraction involved a writer.  I can’t remember where I first read it – possibly one of Barbara Sher’s books – but it struck me as very bizarre.   Apparently the lady in question had wanted to be a writer for some time, and had the firm belief that writers looked very hip, dressed in lots of black, and lived in cool New York apartments.  So she started dressing in black, and eating bagels, and eventually (I forget in which order) moved to New York and got a book deal.  Huh?  Wear black, eat bagels, move to a cool city and you too could be a bestselling author?  Somehow I found it hard to believe it would work for me.  After all, the story seemed to have left out the core element: write a brilliant – or at least popular – book.

But, several years later, after reading the much-talked about LOA primer, ‘The Secret’, I began to make sense of the story, and of why her solution wouldn’t have worked for me.  It worked for her, because it fitted in with her beliefs about what made a successful author.  Me, on the other hand… I don’t see writing as a city thing.  Many of the writers I admire did their best writing in isolated rural locations.  On the other hand, some lived in cities.  Some wore black, some didn’t.  What they had in common was a burning desire to write, natural talent, and the determination to write lots, and keep writing until they succeeded.  Well, I was pretty much born with the burning desire to write, and I’d like to think I have some talent, so it’s not surprising that when I’ve nurtured my determination to write, and kept at it, I’ve had some success.  Because fundamentally, what I believe is that writers write, and that’s that.

For a long time, I’d have told you that wasn’t a belief.  It was the truth.  If you’re not writing, you’re not a writer.  It’s a basic fact of semantics.  But it turns out, as so often, the truth is a bit more complicated than that.  Some very successful writers I’ve met became writers by accident, either in spite of, or because of, a burning desire to do something else entirely.  Barbara Cartland dictated her books rather than writing them, and affordable dictation software (or the services of an elancer) means you don’t already have to be a bestseller to do the same.  So, turns out, ‘writers write’ is just as much of a personal choice as ‘writers wear black and live in New York.’

So much for ‘truth.’  In future, I’ll pay a lot more attention to my beliefs and where they’re leading me.  For example, do I really need to believe that writing takes lots of gritty determination?  Or if I believed that succeeding as a writer was easy and fun, would that turn out to be my truth?

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